Episode 18 - Unapologetically Full of Herself with Sarah Moore

By Jessica Garrison

Normally when we hear someone say they’re full of themself, we’re immediately turned off. However, by the end of this episode, I think everyone will have a different idea of what it means to be full of yourself. Sarah Moore is an intuitive, fun, and intimate woman who has so much knowledge to share with us this week.

Sarah didn’t know what self-care even looked like for the longest time, and this ended up affecting her relationships with others. She didn’t feel right in her body, which caused her to pick fights with those she was closest to. As she learned what it meant to truly take care of herself, her son was also there to help her heal and develop patience. No matter what activity shows up as self-care, Sarah knows it’s all about what makes her feel good.

For Sarah, the root of boundaries is worthiness, and I have to agree with her on that; boundaries come from a place of self-worth. For example, if your job wants you to do extra work for less money, do you hold your worth as an employee and turn it down unless you’re going to get paid what you deserve? However, you have to pick and choose your battles sometimes, and Sarah understands that boundaries can exist in the gray and need to have context. There’s so many layers to this conversation, but I think Sarah does an incredible job of speaking her truth when it comes to boundaries.

Although talk therapy can be quite helpful, Sarah also believes in moving the body and exerting some of her emotions that way. Your body is your permanent home, so it’s important that you engage it with exercise and activity as well as engaging your mental muscles. All of it comes together to keep your body a safe and healthy place as Sarah has astutely discussed during this segment.

Like I mentioned earlier, bragging has a negative connotation, but Sarah is trying to change that. She’s full of herself because she loves herself, and there’s nothing wrong with being proud of your accomplishments. Just as she wants to share her accomplishments, Sarah also wants to hear from other women who have done incredible things. Along with sharing the positives, it’s important to share the negatives as well. We can learn from each other’s mistakes in addition to learning from our own. Being honest and vulnerable is scary at first, but it’s also liberating to share your story.

The “why” can be tricky for Sarah, especially as a business owner. There’s a lot of overthinking when it comes to that area of her life, but Sarah knows she wants her life to be about maximum service. She can still say no to things with this mindset clear in her head. She still doesn’t know what she doesn’t know, and saying no to one opportunity could lead to a yes for another.

Sarah has always had high standards for herself, which I’m sure a lot of us can relate to. She also had high standards for others, but she says this was born out of judgment. After experiencing her own struggles, such as bullying and alcoholism, she’s quicker to grace and compassion rather than judgment. She has the tools to live out of her own expectations rather than others, even on the days when it seems impossible.

There’s still so much for Sarah to learn about herself, and she’s come to realize that “layers are gorgeous.” She wants people to remember the power of AND. I can be brave AND scared at the same time; two different emotions can exist at the same time just as our layers exist within each other. If we remember that, then we’re able to show ourselves more empathy as well as experience a sense of power.

This has been one of my favorite episodes of the season so far (maybe because I couldn’t stop agreeing with everything Sarah was saying). She made such eye-opening remarks, particularly about boundaries, that I think will be helpful to so many women. Let us know if you agree and check out Sarah’s resources for more information that can help you begin your journey!

Ways to Engage: What do you think of Sarah’s efforts to change the negative meaning of bragging? Think about this question again after listening to her episode as well as any positives or negatives that may come with this. Sharing your accomplishments (and defeats) may just be the change you’re looking for when it comes to self-esteem and self-worth.