Episode 12 - Pleasure is Your Birthright with Kari Assoignon
By Jessica Garrison
Our guest this week, Kari Assoignon, describes herself as funny, down-to-earth, passionate, quick-witted, receptive, well-rounded, loving, and supportive. After listening to this episode, I think everyone will agree with these traits and appreciate the heart Kari has for women.
Kari is a great advocate for sexual health, which ties into our physical, mental, and spiritual health as well. As a conscious dating and pleasure coach, Kari is educated in the physical and psychological benefits that pleasure brings to a woman, which is always fascinating to hear about. Usually, women’s pleasures are ignored, and there is a common theme among women that they don’t orgasm during sex. We want all women to be able to feel the pleasure they’re looking for, whether it be with a partner or on their own terms.
Discovering this passion wasn’t easy for Kari, and it wasn’t easy at first to live out of her own expectations. Her past career was her identity, but she knew she wanted something more. I’ve said the same thing myself about wanting more without really knowing what “more” is. It’s exciting to think about the adventures there are in the world to take, and there’s a trove of possibilities.
Although it isn’t easy to live out of your own expectations, Kari knows her truth and keeps coming back to it, which is so important to remember in our embracing layers journey. If there’s even a question in your mind about an opportunity, you don’t want to spend forever wondering “what if?” It’s worth seeing through, and this mindset has gotten Kari into her position of helping women experience their birthright.
She never thought she’d see herself in the position of a mentor or coach, but we need more people like Kari in this world to show us things we never thought possible before. The more you explore pleasure, the more natural it becomes, which emphasizes the importance of understanding your body. It’s about making that connection with yourself and discovering what you like. Kari asks clients questions like, “What’s blocking you? What is your sexual story? How do you write or rewrite it?” Hold yourself in your emotions to really understand what you want; you can’t tell your partner what you like if you don’t quite understand it yourself.
Kari has her own website where you can dive deeper into conscious dating, pleasure, and breathwork. It’s so refreshing to see this profession becoming more mainstream because we all deserve the chance to experience pleasure. Do what makes you feel comfortable and remember to love yourself along the way.
Ways to Engage: Think about the questions Kari asks during this episode: “What’s blocking you? What is your sexual story? How do you write or want to rewrite it?” Explore your thoughts, desires, and emotions towards your sexual story. Share it with your partner if you have one or write it down and reflect on it. Remember, pleasure is your birthright and you don’t need a partner to achieve it.